“WHERE ALL THE SOBER PEOPLE AT?!” How do you make friends with people (not just in college, but anywhere) if all they seem to do is drink, and you don’t want to? Here’s how I went from having zero friends who didn’t drink (and feeling pretty alone), to having hundreds of friends who have fun without alcohol.

Surrounded by 9,000 people – feeling alone

It was my freshmen year in college and I didn’t do the one thing that seemed to be the most popular… drink. To make a long story short, I found out that if others knew I didn’t drink, they wouldn’t want to hang out with me. It was assumed that I must be boring, arrogant, over-religious or a recovering addict. So I was silent about my decision because it made others uncomfortable and made it harder to find friends. I did this for about a year and at the end, I didn’t know a single person who shared my decision. And it wasn’t like I was hiding in my room having a pity party. I was joining clubs, playing pick-up games at the gym, talking to TONS people on campus (as I was obnoxiously outgoing). But on a campus of nearly 9,000 students, I still felt alone.

Partying sober with hundreds of others – feeling connected

It wasn’t until my Junior year that I had the courage to “come out of the closet” as a non-drinker. After reading a statistic that 20% of college student don’t drink… I WAS PISSED! “Where the hell were they?!” Realizing that I was part of the problem (having been silent for 2 years) I decided to become part of the solution. I was going to stand out. After all, if I’m not willing to solve this, can I really expect someone else to?

My friend Steve and I started throwing house parties without alcohol. Within one month we were getting over 150 students to our parties, sponsorships from companies like Red Bull and Papa Johns, and even had media coverage across our home-state of Wisconsin. During this time I learned that it doesn’t even matter if you drink or not, 90% of college students were interested in attending a sober party like ours.

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HOW (AND WHERE) TO FIND FRIENDS WHO DON’T DRINK ALCOHOL

There’s no secret answer here because the question is wrong. The real question is, how can OTHERS who don’t drink find YOU? Theodore Roosevelt said it pretty well, “If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” Ghandi taught us to “create the world in which you’d like to live in.” So if you’re interested in created a place for people to make friends, have fun and feel good without drugs or alcohol. Contact us and we’ll help you. That’s what we’re here for.